Chinese people home education ten big erroneous zones
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So long as many Chinese people parents thinking child side some people looks, does not have the danger to be good. Actually starts from the birth, the child needs with others exchange: The flesh contact, the hug, the attention vision, some human and he speaksSome Chinese people family's child has not grown up under the attention environment, they meet the thought to be slow, loves deficient security sense.
The object Chinese people parents who treats as the comparison the child are concerned about face-saving, also wants to encourage the child to progress, therefore said frequently, you looked others child is studious, the result is much good. Own child and others' child compared to,girls clothes, can only bring for oneself is discontented and is painful, also injures the child the self-respect. This kind of comparison psychology also possibly causes between guardian's with difficulty being together.
Does not respect the child the privacy and right many parents is holding the traditional ideas, thought that the children are belong to the parents, also does not respect the child the privacy and the right. Therefore, the child who will respect is not grown up later also did not know how to respect others. Therefore, the parents enter the children room to knock on a door first, the migration or uses child's thing to be under his permission, any involves to children's decision should first with children discussion and so on.
Assigns development direction many parents to the child the desire which has not been able to realize oneself to repose on the child body,（Related Articleschildren's clothes Child's net loves suitably spar）, as soon as presses up to the child to walk toward on own hypothesis road. Even if the child is not suitable, also does not like. For example study piano, for example study abroad. Under these pressures, the family becomes not joyful, the parent-child harmonious relations are sacrificed.
Regards all performance the academic record the indicator not to represent all in the school result, instead is the comprehensive ability, the vigor, the will, the disposition, is affects the child future the important attribute.
Thought that gets up early is very good,baby dolls, sleeps is in the lazy growth child needs the full sleep, but present many child daily sleep insufficient 8 hours. The sleep insufficient will affect the growth, the mental ability will drop.
Thought that the child should bring the full time the study to have the investigation to demonstrate, often makes the family work the child will live in the future is quite happy. Through the processing family work, the child will solve the question ability to strengthen,fashion kids clothes, after growing up, the comparison can face the setback. The Chinese people parents to let the child study, does not let the child make the family work, also eliminated him to study the work, shared the responsibility and the study facing the question opportunity.
The deficient sense of humor and relaxed because of each pressure, the family basic atmosphere is at the same time compels the child to study. The parents because of the life pressure, have lost the sense of humor, has lost with ease. The parent-child or the husbands and wives under this tense atmosphere, small contradictory will detonate the conflict.
Thought that parents' love is the excuse which loves to the children any request's excuse is not acts in a self-serving manner. Many parents often a few words which said to the children are: We do this, is also because loves you, is good for you. The parents should not like treating as propose to the child the unreasonable request shield.
Thought that raises the child is the difficult duty, is not enjoys the Chinese people parents to be used to raises the children to regard the difficult duty, and suggests frequently or indicated clearly that the children want to repay, filial. Compared with the correct manner is, raises the child is enjoyment which one destiny grants. Should enjoy the time which is together with the children, enjoys looks they grow pleasure.
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